Every year as the mother’s day approaches I wonder what is actually motherhood? Is it bearing and rearing children? When does motherhood truly begin and what is it? Are you a mother the moment you find out you’re expecting a little one? For many women, the answer is yes. The moment there is confirmation of a new life most women begin practising great care and caution to protect the little one inside. Is this mothering? Protecting your little one? It is, but motherhood is so much more. There is no limit to what can be considered motherhood. Motherhood can bring joy greater than anything you’ve ever known.While mothering may be tough at times, it comes with its own very special rewards. From the first kicks in the womb to perfect little toes at birth, your child is a part of you for nine months. Motherhood is something which can not be defined just in words.
Today we have one such mother with us who is an epitome of strength and determination. Prerna Sinha-a marathon runner, a yogi, a fashion designer by profession, economic graduate, a mother and the founder of the inspirational blog- MaaOfAllBlogs. “Through ‘Maa of all blogs’ she wants to reach those women who actually think that motherhood is an end to it. She believes that one should not stop dreaming after becoming a mum. She wisely emphasises that having a kid is not a full stop it’s a comma, you just take a break and move on. This mother of two can easily give competition to lots of women out there just because of her love for health and fitness. On her blog, she also blogs about her experiences of being a mother who is living life on her own terms. Come discover her parallel coexistence as a mum and a highly independent woman.
1. Growing up, what were your thoughts on becoming a mother one day? How did your upbringing influence those thoughts?
I was a rebel and being the elder child, my parent’s expectations from me were always too much. I could see my younger brother get away with a lot of mischiefs and I always thought that when I have my own kids I am not going to pressurise my elder kid but when I became a mom, I see myself doing the exact same things. As kids, we were brought up with very strong morals and that is another aspect that I lay stress on as a mom.
2. Is there anything you wish you had done differently before getting married or becoming a mother?
I think I took all the time to decide to get married and I was sure to have my first baby before I turned 30 and the second one before I turned 35. I just wished I was not the first one to deliver amongst friends and family as I had to fumble my way throughout.
3.What were your first thoughts when you saw your baby?
I will shock moms if I say I did not fall in love at first sight. In fact, I was looking at him and wondering why his nose is stretching through his face. I later realised that he was a forceps baby and their features take a few hours to settle down.
4.What was a unique thing about your kids/kid as a baby?
Every mom wants to think their kids are unique, mine made their own destiny. My elder one was very susceptible to injuries and I have no idea how he would find places to get hurt or fall, lol;). My younger one started standing and holding things and walking at 51/2 months.
5.How has imagining motherhood been different from the reality of motherhood?
Motherhood, in all books pictures and stories, seemed like a dream and fantasy. I have always loved kids and had great notions about having mine but once I had delivered I realised that reality was far away from that fantasy. It’s been a roller coaster with its ups and downs.
6.What’s your favourite part of each stage of your child growing up – infant, toddler, child, teen etc?
I think I enjoyed the infant part more with my second kid as I was a more aware mom and had a good support system. I loved both their toddler ages as they are more independent and adorable. I love their babbling and they are so huggable at this stage. The teen is what I am dreading, with my elder one already 11, I can see a few hints of what my future will be like.
7.What has given you the most joy as a mother? What has been the hardest part?
Hugs and adoration that I receive from my kids especially on the days when I am down are incomparable. Hardest is being their role model. I am not a perfect human being, no one is and when they point fingers and say why should I do this when you don’t is tough explaining.
8.What is the one thing you would have liked to do differently as a mum?
I wish I was a more relaxed and involved mom with my elder one. I try but I guess I am way more invested in him and can’t relax around him. Now I understand my parents better 🙂
9. What advice would you give to other mums to be? The most important thing you feel they need to know.
I would just say, don’t get stressed with motherhood be informed but take your own decisions, make your own rules as no one understands your kids better. And it’s ok to fail or make mistakes because we are just humans and not superhumans that we are made to believe. Finally, your kids will make their own destiny you are only their guide.
10. Anyone special you would like to thank for helping you through parenthood?
My parents who had set a certain guideline when I was growing up, without this I would not know where to begin. While I made my own rules, the broad guidelines always come from what you have seen. My husband for all the times he rose up to the occasion when I couldn’t cope or wasn’t around but most of all my kids who tolerate me and listen to me 🙂 and still love me.
Stay tuned for yet another amazing mom and a blogger Richa Choudhary.