Intimacy after baby-Embracing Sexuality after Motherhood

Sexuality after motherhood takes a back seat immediately after childbirth! Why is it so common? While this is not a duty that two individuals perform, instead, it is the way that two people in love connect to each other and develop a strong bonding. Generally, the break is mainly due to medical reasons.

Factors affecting sexuality after motherhood

• After childbirth for about 6 weeks, the body takes time to internally get back to shape and do cleanup activities. Continuous menstruation is a result of this cleanup.
• If undergone C-section, stitches will continue to hurt and the uterus will still be delicate.
• Due to the 9 months of wear and tear, nervousness automatically sets in.
• The hormonal changes do not allow the body and mood to set in the right way.
• The care and affection towards the new soul divert the attention.

Between the partners, the discussion about sex decreases as there is a lot of distraction around. While this is not a valid reason, but, the effect is visible as both individuals have taken up a new role in life. Husband and wives are the biggest examples of the above effect. They are connected by heart, but, the physical connection goes missing. Sexuality after motherhood is indeed a critical matter, if not spoken today can form serious cracks in the relationship.

Problems are a part of life, we all go through the same! and, we need to change things around us. Ways that could help a woman enhance her sexuality and simultaneously enjoy motherhood are penned below.

• Intercourse is not the aim. In the initial weeks, both partners can enjoy the cuddling phase and soak the feeling of new parents and lovers like before. Kissing and hugging will make you feel connected from the heart.
• Start spending time with each other during the baby naps. I used this technique immensely to communicate with my husband. Having good conversations cheers up the mood and will help you deal with those terrible mood swings.
• After the initial round of vaccinations, plan a short holiday with your partner. An environment outside the house has a wonderful influence on mood and libido.
• Becoming parents does not mean that romance must stay behind the doors. Introduce ways like a cozy dinner or a post-maternity date night to spice up the mood.

There are a lot of ways that we as a woman can try to help ourselves! However, the contribution from the partner will make a huge difference. Here are the personal experiences of few women in my circle that has equally helped them regain their sexuality after motherhood.

• My husband always lends me an ear. No matter how the day went, he would come home and ask what happened the full day. He would cuddle me and try to take my pain off! says, Priya (Name changed)
• During weekends, he has helped me with my princess duties. Soon, he could allow me to rest for a few hours by bathing the baby, putting the baby to sleep etc. These activities kept my attention on him. My love grew stronger, strongly voices Sanjana.
• My partner would take part in my regular doctor visits for the baby and for me. He was always there to show how important I am to him. Remembering the medical routine, catching the right symptoms of my changing body. This one was my personal experience with my husband always supporting me.
• He planned some surprises, just to quote one, he had once organized a cozy candle dinner at home. All dishes were made by him. It was a really good surprise for me and I almost thought that I love him more than yesterday, says Akanksha.

While we women suffer sexually after motherhood due to immense hormonal changes. It is about small little things described above that can help recoup with the sudden changes brought in by motherhood.

This post is part of #halfmarathon by Blogchatter. 

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