The beauty of motherhood is in inclusion. It is not because your mother reproduced you, bore you and let you out. That is not why a mother is precious. She is precious because, in many ways, she saw you as a part of herself.” Motherhood is challenging and rewarding at the same time. As with many endeavours, but particularly motherhood, we won’t really know the effect our choices and decisions on our children for years.Entering motherhood is in a way rite of passage for most women. Today in this interview feature we are going to talk about one such amazing mum, Debolina who is a beautiful example of motherhood. Let’s read on to know her better.
As a believer of ‘live & let live’, Debolina likes to enjoy the tidbits of life as it comes by. As a person who enjoys reading, writing and interacting with people, she finds it exciting to write about emotions, experiences, stories, lifestyle, parenting, self-improvement, current affairs and pretty much everything that affects a common man’s life. An ex-HR and Corp. Comm professional, and a freelance content and creative writer, content developer, author and blogger (debolinacoomar.wordpress.com) and of course, mother to an energetic toddler, she strives to ignite the power of thought with a whole new perspective, something along the lines of what Walt Disney said: “If you can dream it, you can do it”. She is also a contributing author of many short stories and poem anthologies and e-books.
1. Growing up, what were your thoughts on becoming a mother one day? How did your upbringing influence those thoughts?
As a kid, I always thought that motherhood would be fun as I will be authority then. But, I realise now that there are far bigger responsibilities of being a mother. My upbringing has taught me patience from my mother and integrity from my father, which are both very important for raising a child and being a parent.
2. Is there anything you wish you had done differently before getting married or becoming a mother?
I wish I could have taken a better care of my health or lifestyle, then probably I wouldn’t have faced a few health complication during my pregnancy.
3. What were your first thoughts when you saw your baby?
When I first set my eyes on her, I wondered how will I handle someone so cute, so pure and so innocent. I thought whether I will be able to fulfil my responsibilities as a mother, but when I saw her miraculous smile amidst all my worries, I knew I am going to make it, I HAVE to make it.
4. What was a unique thing about your kids/kid as a baby?
Her energy, her focus and determination to do something, and of course her charm.
5. How has imagining motherhood been different from the reality of motherhood?
Well, to be frank, I had never imagined much. I was ready to take it head-on, and every day is a new learning, and I am quite enjoying it with all its goods and odds.
6. What’s your favourite part of each stage of your child growing up – infant, toddler, child, teen etc?
As a toddler, I would say it’s how my daughter interprets things, and in the process, I also get to learn something new. Sometimes, it’s amazing to see how she decodes certain things, which even we are not able to understand.
7. What has given you the most joy as a mother? What has been the hardest part?
The happiest moments have been watching my daughter cross the milestones from an infant to a toddler, watching her dance and sing. Well, the hardest part I feel is yet to come.
8. What is the one thing you would have liked to do differently as a mum?
Probably, let my daughter not to be a part of the mad race, not comparing her with others, rather letting her choose what she likes.
9. What advice would you give to other mums to be? The most important thing you feel they need to know.
Every part of motherhood is a unique experience- both good and bad, just face it. There is nothing like a perfect mother, so don;t strive to be one. You will always be the BEST one for your child.
10. Anyone special you would like to thank for helping you through parenthood?
I would like to thank my husband, who was there at every step, taking care of everything. And, of course, my family and friends who always helped and encouraged me throughout my pregnancy with tips and advice.
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Coming up next is a very nice and established blogger, Kuhoo Gupta from K-Junction.