Motherhood confers upon a woman the responsibility of raising a child. This whole process changes the way in which she is perceived in the society or at her home or her workplace. A working mother, especially one who has the good fortune to be able to balance her home and work, enjoys the stimulation that a job or career provides. She develops the ability to raise a useful member of society and at the same time gains financial independence. Along with motherhood, work adds to the completeness of being a woman.
Today we have featured here Shipra Trivedi a Software Professional with over 9 years of experience. She is a mum to a beautiful child. One could define her as a woman with the ability to combine a career with the added responsibility of raising her child. She is a strong believer of family values and traditions and aims to teach her child the same. While managing a work-life balance she is also pursuing her hobby of writing. When not working you can find her writing for various parenting websites and her blog on Abundanceoftalks. She focuses mainly on sharing her experiences on parenting, social issues and health awareness. She strongly believes in a life’s motto “If you believe you can achieve”.
1.Growing up, what were your thoughts on becoming a mother one day? How did your upbringing influence those thoughts?
Although this is part of life and a natural thing that happens to every woman that she marries and becomes a mother one day, I never imagined that someday I would become a mother. I was always focused towards my studies and career. However, today I am a mother and its nothing less than a proud achievement. My upbringing definitely helps me in raising my son well. Having said that I strongly believe that being from a lower middle class taught me to use resources carefully. I make sure my son understands the importance of things which he has in his life.
2. Is there anything you wish you had done differently before getting married or becoming a mother?
I never had big dreams about getting married. I am married to my known childhood friend and I feel that is the best thing about our relationship. Yes, I miss travelling freely now and I feel I should have travelled more before becoming a mother.
3. What were your first thoughts when you saw your baby?
“Is he really my baby who was inside me since last 9 months?” This was the first thought that came into my mind. You know, I had to wait for 3 hours to take my son in my arms. There was a big army of relatives who were there to celebrate his birth. And my son was moving from one person to other for getting the photographs clicked, except me. That was too bad!
4. What was a unique thing about your kids/kid as a baby?
When he was an infant, he never cried much and this I think is a unique thing. I have seen babies cry inconsolably for hours. Another thing that I like about him is that he is very adjusting and friendly. He gels well with new people quite well.
5. How has imagining motherhood been different from the reality of motherhood?
In reality, motherhood is full of action, drama and emotion. Just like a Hindi Bollywood film. I used to think that I would never yell at my son. But it’s impossible!
6. What is your favourite part of each stage of your child growing up – infant, toddler, child, teen etc?
When he was an infant, I used to die for his smile. When infants give you smile, you feel as if you have got an award. Now that he is a toddler, I adore his talks. Just like his father, he is a very talkative person. I love his expression full of love when he hugs me and says “Aww mera bachcha”
7. What has given you the most joy as a mother? What has been the hardest part?
Being a working mother, I couldn’t enjoy much of his early childhood. However, now we spend a good amount of time together and his talks really make me emotional. It’s an incomparable joy to see your babies growing and loving you unconditionally. The hardest part, I would say is when kids fall sick, especially when they can’t express their discomfort clearly, like infants. For a mother, it is the most difficult time to comfort her sick baby.
8. What is the one thing you would have liked to do differently as a mum?
I like to give my son a mixed upbringing which has a balance of traditional and new age thoughts. I want him to learn Sanskrit chants and RamcharitManas verse along with learning English rhymes. I would like him to have a strong command over his mother tongue and then he could master another language as well. Having said that, we as his parents are trying our best to give him all the opportunities to lead a happy and good life ahead. However, I would also like to take him to our village for him to get exposed to the lifestyle there and to see how kids grow.
9.What advice would you give to other mums to be? The most important thing you feel they need to know.
Every mother is an expert for her kids so there is no as such advice from my side. With saying so, I would request them to stay attached to their roots in terms of family customs and traditions. In this fast-changing world, it’s our responsibility to teach kids importance of family and family traditions as well.
10. Anyone special you would like to thank for helping you through parenthood?
I think I would like to thank my husband for always being there for me. He is the person behind me being able to work and soar high in my career. He is the biggest support of my life in raising my son well. Although his family is different but I like how he transformed himself from a husband to now a caring father who is capable of doing anything and everything.
To know more about her parenting journey follow her on Abundanceoftalks and Facebook
Coming up next a very established and dynamic mommy blogger Prerna Sinha from Maaofallblogs.