Motherhood, it is believed to be in the heart of the beholder.It is the most beautiful phase of a women’s life which starts from conceiving a baby to having that piece of your heart walking outside in the world. For few, it can be raising a child, nurturing them and about individual experiences. And to some, it could be all about what defines them.
Today with this feature I would like to share about one such mum who got her first lesson or a glimpse of motherhood from her own mother. An ideal daughter who loves to follow her mother’s footsteps, a loving wife who seeks all the possible support from her husband, a dutiful daughter-in-law and a wonderful mother. I am thankful to Ekta Chawla, a friend, and a fellow blogger on ConfusedParent for accepting my request of sharing her insights on motherhood. Ekta mother of a beautiful 2 yr old is the Founder of ConfusedParent – one of the fastest growing communities in the Parenting Space. Banker turned Social Media Specialist, is now articulating content for parents relating to pregnancy & raising kids. According to her motherhood is the most beautiful journey that spans across pregnancy, birth, raising toddlers, tweens and teens. And raising toddlers has never been easy. While every child is special & unique, so is it’s requirement & nurturing. All parents want to be well-informed & stay abreast of their child’s requirements. Hence she has created this platform to help parents connect with experts, doctors & other parents who provides the indefinite skeleton of support in getting those innumerable questions answered.
Let’s take a sneak peek into the life of this wonderful person and get to know her better.
1. Growing up, what were your thoughts on becoming a mother one day? How did your upbringing influence those thoughts?
For every girl, her mum is “The World’s Best Mum”. I was no different. Although it may sound too cliché, my inspiration was always my Mum. An embodiment of sacrifice & great value & most importantly “PATIENCE” – something that comes hard to me.
2. Is there anything you wish you had done differently before getting married or becoming a mother?
Learning from family & friends around, I always thought I’d ensure my child sits in one place & finishes his/her meal. But, ironically, I spend at least 4 hours a day, running behind her, all around the house & my entire colony lends a helping hand in entertaining her – hoping to expedite the feeding process.
3. What were your first thoughts when you saw your baby?
Gentle, Pure & Adorable. Those innumerable rush of feelings that sometimes are very tough to channelize into words.
4. What was a unique thing about your kids/kid as a baby?
Well, every child is unique. My little one loves binging on Mustard Seeds, Pumpkin Seeds & Watermelon Seeds. Strange huh? 🙂
5. How has imagining motherhood been different from the reality of motherhood?
I have always been brought up in a closely knit joint family. With 2 elder sisters & their children, I broadly had set my expectations right. Except that she takes way too long to finish one meal, it is more or less similar.
6. What’s your favourite part of each stage of your child growing up – infant, toddler, child, teen etc?
I would vouch for Toddler – the first few words like Mumma and Papa, the first few steps with their two little happy feet, the first few social pictures(Yes, children know how to pose for the shutterbugs!) – all of which have an overload of cuteness.
7. What has given you the most joy as a mother? What has been the hardest part?
What I Love & Enjoy the most is when my daughter calls out “Mumma” like she owns me & hugs me tight. The unconditional love with a dash of dependency makes you feel special, rather, On Top Of The World!
Hardest? Well, when you have to manage a picky eater along with the home chores & a small startup growing like a toddler is a challenge when you are pressed for time! But, being busy & multi-tasking is good right? 🙂
8. What is the one thing you would have liked to do differently as a mum?
I’d love to be more “Patient” – in my opinion, the biggest & most valuable virtue Motherhood can teach you.
9. What advice would you give to other mums to be? The most important thing you feel they need to know.
Well, every new mommy is showered with lots of blessings & unsolicited advice from family & friends & people you met 12 minutes ago at a distant relative’s cousin’s wedding! So, yes please, “Thodi Hawa Aane De”! 😉
10. Anyone special you would like to thank for helping you through parenthood?
I’d like to thank
My Husband – My strong pillar of support – for his Love & Positivity. Positivity is crucial when you are bogged down with common infant problems like fever, cough & cold.
My Mother – She who has & will always be my Role Model For Life. As a mother of 3 children & a grandmother of 6, you have the guidance of none but the BEST-EST. While my doting father is a personification of dedication & interminability, most values, skills & learnings as ‘hand-downs’ are by default the Mother’s responsibility eg. Cooking.
In-Laws – You can call them In-Laws or simply “Mummy & Papa”. With the love of a supportive family, forms the skeleton of a great value system for your child. The conducive & loving environment in which your child is nurtured especially in its formative years has a treasured impact on your little one’s upbringing & will stay for a lifetime.
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